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I don't do it for the credit.

Not even two weeks ago, I walked in on Aaron wiping sauce from the cabinet doors and kitchen floor; the remnants of Hurricane Kobe. Do you want me to take a picture? I asked. Hey! I clean up! he said. Oh, I know you do, I'm on your side, here. I'm just sayin', you know, so that everyone else knows you do too. And then he replied with an answer that completely sums up his nature, his character, him: I don't do it for the credit.


I'd have believed anything before I'd believe that Aaron had died. But he did. And this is more than the universe just keeping us on our toes. This is... a constant belting across the head that says we can't count on today or tomorrow or any other day or any other thing so love love love love love.


I have so few words. I want to write all day and all night about how incredible Aaron was; how thankful I am to have known him, how his absence will rock his beautiful family until they are reunited with him and with Noah, how his legacy will shape his sons into men like him. It's all there... the sentiments, the truths of Aaron. Shell shock, though, blocks the way. But it'll come.

I wrote a letter to Aaron and I dropped it in the river. Everything I wish I could have told him in person. Everything he'd be too humble to accept. I don't do it for the credit.

This big kid is now playing with his precious son, in ways they've never been able to, not ever before.

Aaron King, 23 December 1972- 26 January 2012.

Reader Comments (13)

well said Alison xx

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterChelsea Parsons

I knew Aaron from afar and more through blog posts and in the old days AOL instant messages. What a great and wonderful man.
You wrote so wonderfully eloquently about him!

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTricia

Perfect words. xo.

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commentercelysebaker


January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBecky

A great loss and such a great person. Hope your doing ok.

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterChristian Triffitt


January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterErin

Just right, you. xo

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commentersweetsalty kate

OMG Allison I am just in shock I can't believe what I am reading. Send my love pls to Lisa. Andrea (St Giles)

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterandrea

beautifully written

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterClare

Allison you write beautifully, What has happened again to this amazing family I just cannot comprehend. So unfair that they are going to have to go through this heartbreak again so soon after just loosing Noah. Hope you are doing ok, Please let us at St Giles know if we can do anything for you, or for Lisa and the boys. Love and prayers Lindy Conway

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLindy Conway

Such beautiful words. I know you don't know me but I too hope you're ok. Go and listen to some Kina - I hope there's some words there that might help :D

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDonna Seen

My heart breaks for this dear family that I know only through your words.

January 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDanielle

Great post! I can just see Aaron running free being the biggest kid of all while Noah tries to keep him in line! He is a true legend!

January 31, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAngela

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